I have been a wife and homemaker for 16 years. While in the beginning, I also held a full-time job outside of our home. These days, my primary role in the family is wife and mother. Its a blessing to stay home with my children. Over the years I have realized that being a homemaker is a calling, a ministry, of sorts.
There are some days where being home and caring for my family can be exhausting – I’ll admit to that. But over the last nine years, since the birth of my oldest son and resigning from my career, I have confirmed that being a homemaker is just as important job as one held outside the home. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with that fact. In speaking with other friends, who walked away from careers to being the homemaker and caretaker, its something a lot of us struggle with.
As Melissa from A Virtuous Woman writes, “… homemaking is just as important as any other type of ministry because as the wife and mother – the way our family feels at home speaks volumes about how we minister to their needs.”
I want my home to feel warm and welcoming, for there to be joy and laughter. There should be a sense of calm when you walk into our home. I want to be a better mother tomorrow than I was today. Be patient when the small things fall apart. Remember, they’re all small things. I want to speak kindness and keep my anger in check. Instead of, “Do as I say not as I do,” I want to lead by example. I want to be the wife and mother that my family deserves.
Some days are better than others.
On a day like today, when I get to sit back and reflect on what I want for our home, and for our family, I realize that I’m not hitting the mark in a lot of places. Instead of being hard on myself, or thinking myself a failure, I have decided to take the next 8 weeks and move my life, and my ministry as a homemaker, in the direction I believe it should go. In addition to decluttering and cleaning the house, its time to also get rid of the guilt, impatience, and all else which weighs on my heart.